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About Marriage

In our time, a new paradigm is emerging that reveals a much deeper understanding of the committed love relationship that we have come to know as marriage. We might call this evolving vision the dialogical or conscious marriage.

This model of couple-hood envisions a deep commitment of two equal partners to mutually create a sacred relational space between them that is founded on mutual love and respect. Within the safety of this sacred place, each partner is dedicated to enter into and remain on a journey of mutual growth and healing. Within this hallowed space, each partner is available, responsive and attuned to the other so that this space becomes a safe haven and secure base where each one finds the rest, renewal and restoration that brings healing, growth. While maintaining the safety and security, there is also an invitation and sometimes a challenge to move beyond the limits of past experience and step out together into full aliveness. Relating in a field beyond all notion of right and wrong, conflict is embraced as an opportunity for growth and transformation. The mutuality of gifting and receiving enables that healing and growth to happen.

It is within the context of the safe and loving space that children are received and nurtured by loving and conscious parents who are mutually responsive and responsible. From such a secure place, the children will leave as mature human beings who are alive, confident and competent and thus better to meet the challenges of life.

The energy of this dialogical marriage radiates out into the context of the larger culture helping to create a society that is safe, aware of our deep connection to all people and honoring of our differences. In such an atmosphere, peace and tranquility can abound.

Note: This evolving vision of marriage moves beyond question of gender. It is about mature, exclusive commitment of two adults. The experience of dialogical or conscious marriage is available to partners of different gender or of the same gender.

Reflections by Dave McKeon
9/30/04
daveandmargie@aol.com

 

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